Help and advice for domestic violence perpetrators
Respect Phoneline - domestic violence helpline
Information for domestic violence perpetrator programmes
Help for the abuser
We offer information and advice to help domestic violence perpetrators stop their violence and change their abusive behaviours.
The main focus of the Respect Phoneline is to increase the safety of those experiencing domestic violence by engaging with the abusers to reduce the risk.
We provide information for domestic violence perpetrator programmes.
Call the Respect Phoneline on
freephone 0808 802 4040
Monday - Friday 10am-1pm and 2pm-5pm
(free from landlines and from mobiles using the O2, Orange, T Mobile, Three (3), Virgin, and Vodafone networks). Calls will not appear on BT landline phone bills
A voicemail service is available: we aim to return calls within two working days.
Email: firstname.lastname@example.org - we aim to reply within two working days.
We aim to speak to at least 50% of all callers aiming to access the Respect Phoneline every month.
Help for domestic violence perpetrators
The majority of people who call our service are men in heterosexual relationships. We also speak to women who are abusive and violent towards their partners looking for help as well as gay and bi men.
These people realise that they are abusive and violent. They call us because they are looking for help to stop being violent.
We talk through their options, advise on short-term strategies to manage the risk they pose to their partner/children and give them information for domestic violence perpetrator programmes.
MEN: Are you hurting the one you love? Click here
GAY men click here
WOMEN who are abusive towards their partners click here
Help for victims of domestic violence
We welcome calls from victims who experience domestic violence and are looking for help on behalf of their partner. We welcome those calls as an opportunity to encourage victims to access specialist support for themselves but also to explain to them what help might be available for their partner and what happens at a domestic violence perpetrator programme. More information here
Male victims of domestic violence are signposted to the Men's Advice Line (also run by Respect)
Help for frontline workers
We welcome calls from frontline workers in voluntary or statutory agencies who work with individuals or families where one partner is abusive to another.
We give information about domestic violence perpetrator programmes and we offer advice on how best to deal with perpetrators.
Professionals can find a variety of resources and publicity materials here